White lies, what's the harm? by John Seeley

Have you ever told a white lie? Everybody has. But how often do you do it? Lies big and small hurt our self esteem. They also add up. If you tell someone it’s no problem, when it’s really inconvenient, maybe it’s not so bad. But where do you draw the line? Do you tell your boyfriend your meeting the girls, and you are doing something else? Is there a difference? That’s one of the problems. Your lying can escalate without you even realizing it. So what’s the harm? The harm is besides it hurting your self-esteem; it is potentially damaging your relationships. All relationships are based on trust. Lying damages that. Even if you never get caught, there is one person that always knows you’re lying. You. You know and remember each time. This hurts your relationships. You aren’t being truthful. This makes each relationship less than it could be. All relationships start with the relationship you have with yourself. Your subconscious mind notices lies, even when you don’t. White lies hurt your self esteem, and therefore all relationships. Each one may not be damaging, but if you find yourself doing it daily or more, it will began to add up. Some white lies make logical sense. If it avoids hurting someone else’s feelings, maybe it’s better that being completely honest. After all honesty without compassion is cruelty. So just notice how and when you lie. Is there a line you won’t cross to lie? If not there may be problems brewing for you. It’s not too late to start being truthful, with yourself and others.