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John Seeley
What is the right decision for me? by John Seeley

When you’re in a place of confusion, there are three ways to look for solutions. Your conscious mind, subconscious mind, and your superconscious mind all have different input for your consideration.

Your conscious mind uses logic and reason to offer possible solutions. A Ben Franklin is a simple exercise which often offers some potential clarity. Draw a line down the middle of a sheet of paper. Write Pros on one side, and Cons on the other. Then write out every benefit and every possible detriment of your decision. Which ever side is longer, is your solution. This is a very simplistic way to look at your problem, but can offer some information to consider.

You might consider by writing S.M.A.R.T. goals. These goals are Specific Measurable Appropriate Realistic with a component of Time. Once you choose your goals, and verify that they meet the S.M.A.R.T. criteria, make sure they meet your wants and needs. If they do, you can take them to a new level by writing them out in an Action Scene, as if they are happening now. Write them using descriptive action verbs and adjectives. Paint a verbal picture of exactly how you and your life will be as if it’s happening now. Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between pretending and reality, so it will work to make it happen.

Another way to work with your subconscious mind is to do journaling. I find the best time to journal is right after getting up in the morning. That is when you are consciously closest to your subconscious mind. Sometimes non-dominant hand writing can also facilitate this connection. Working with a coach or therapist can be a way of connection to what is going on inside of you. An impartial witness with knowledge and skills can be a great help to you when you are in a place of indecision.

Another method of finding answers is to look to that part of you that has all your answers, your superconscious mind. This Divine part of you knows what is in your highest and best interest. To access this part of you, you might begin by asking for specific guidance just at bedtime, and ask for the answer to come to you in an easy to understand and clear way that you will remember. Sometimes in a dream, or as a thought the next day, you may find your answer. If not keep asking, and usually within a few days you will have the answer appear.

Another way to access this information is with prayer and meditation. I look at prayer as talking to the Divine, and meditation as listening to the Divine. Prayer and meditation can be done anywhere. Sometimes you may find special places that offer solitude and comfort. You might have a church, temple or just a favorite spot that feels safe to you. Meditation is best done when you won’t be interrupted for at least 5 minutes to an hour. It can be done seated quietly, or walking in nature. The key is to concentrate on clearing your conscious mind. When a distracting thought comes up, just thank it and release it. This is the time to just be.

Using any or all of these methods can offer solutions to your questions and problems. Try them and if you need assistance, find it.