What to do when you hear, “I’m not in love.” by John Seeley

My take on the "no longer being in love" is that more clarity on the issue needs to be discussed by both parties. Often men and women don't communicate on the same wavelength. If the man is saying that he no longer is in love because he no longer feels the "crazy passion", then that means something different from he no longer feels like you're his special one. The former can be dealt with and recaptured much easier than the latter. So before your friend feels the dagger in her heart, do a perception check to clarify what the man really means. If it's truly "the thrill is gone", then your friend has to decide what that means for her and how she wants to move forward from there.

It certainly can feel worse than cheating or death of the loved one, but actually they all have a lot in common. First, it's a withdrawal of love. coupled with rejection. That combination is hard to accept, and often triggers feelings of not good enough, failure at relationship, insecurity, lack of trust, and others. If you take the approach, it's not personal, you can just realize that you are now free to look for someone that can really offer you what you want. It's kind of like the "he's just not into you." But as sensitive human beings, we usually choose to take it personally. No matter how it might really be, it feels personal, and it hurts. The best thing to do is to find support, with friends, family or counselors. Know that you can find love again, and it will get better.