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John Seeley
Internet Dating - What's it all about? by John Seeley

In this time of go, go, go, the main way people are finding to meet their mates is the Internet. The bar scene and meeting at social events is not the same. People are busier and more isolated than ever before. The Internet sites like match.com, and eharmony.com, etc have come into being to offer the electronic connection for people to search for their soulmates.

Meeting someone on the Internet has it’s pros and cons. The old fashioned way allows you to have the “chemistry check,” the all important biological test that makes the relationship work. Eventually you will meet in person if all goes well with the “Internet courtship.” In some cases it might be better to meet online first. Often we “judge a book by it’s cover,” too quickly, and miss the diamond beneath the exterior. Online you can also feel bolder and show more of your personality

Success rates of each site varies, but I think that you can find what you’re looking for if you put the effort in. You need to make sure you find a site that has what you want. First do they have people that meet what you’re looking for? It's important to look in a place that has the type of people that you desire.  Do they have a good compatibility matching process?  If they do, complete it.  Too often people don't take advantage of the tools that are offered because they feel it's too much bother.  In reality, it saves you lots of time, money, etc. by helping you to prescreen potential partners.  Portray who you really are.  Don't use pictures that are more than a couple of years old.  Tell the truth.  It won't help you to lie because sooner or later the truth will come out, and relationships are built on trust.  Have fun while you are doing the profile.  Let your happy side show.  You are far more attractive to others when you are in a good mood.  Finally, have good pictures.  I've seen some really bad pictures of people that really are attractive, but put unflattering pictures up.  Remember you only get one chance to make a first impression.